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The Best Day of Your Life

The Best Day of Your Life

I saw a quote today, something about, “the best day of your life.”  That got me thinking… What does it mean to have the best day of your life?  Many times we answer this type of question with things like, “The day I got married!”, “The day I got divorced!”, “When I got that huge promotion!”, or “When I lost my job and started a dream career!”  These answers all place the emphasis on external things taking place.  But is that our life?  The external things that happen to us?  If this is the case, many of us undoubtedly have far more bad days than good days, let alone “best” days.

What if, however, our life is not the the external things happening to us and around us, but rather, our internal being and the choices we make?  What if we view our life as who we are and who we are becoming?  Certainly that’s how others see our life isn’ it? Not what happens to us, but how we respond to what happens to us?  In this light, a good day then is not dependent on our external circumstances, but on how we are responding and acting in relation to those external circumstances: responding well or not so well.  A good day is when I have responded consistently in good ways.

What then would be “the best day of your life?”  A day where you have responded well (in your thoughts and your actions) to all that is thrown at you circumstantially.  If you can maintain your love, compassion, honesty, and justice in the circumstances thrown at you on these days (or just while driving in L.A. traffic), it will indeed be one of the best days of your life.

Don’t be captive to and controlled by the external, strive for “the best day of your life” everyday by being the best person you can.  After all, you are your life, not what happens to you.

Where Are You Going?

Where Are You Going?

We all have somewhere we are going in life, even if not consciously.  So, where are you going in life?  Are you drifting along in the currents of the latest fads and news bites?  Are you following some dream of fame, fortune, or comfort?  My son has been starting out the school year by learning the seven habits of highly effective kids, one of which is fitting for this topic:  Begin with the end in mind.  So give some thought on how you’d like to end, or who you’d like to be when your end time comes.  Then, be intentional and conscientious about what you do each day and moment now to work towards that end.  You may find yourself ultimately living a much different life than you are now.

What Can You Take With You?

What Can You Take With You?

So, I had a fascinating conversation with my son the other night.  We were chilling in his bed talking about wisdom.  Basically what it is, how you would define it, and how you might apply it to some life situations.  We chatted also about how wisdom is worth much more than money and how seeking wisdom (good choices) is better than seeking money.  We continued to progress in the conversation, talking about an irony that exists with wisdom and money, and of course had to spend a good 10 minutes first explaining the word, irony.  🙂  Once we got back around to the topic of wisdom, we came to the ironic conclusion that often if one tries to go after money they will get neither money or wisdom; but often if one goes after wisdom they will get both wisdom and money (and know how to properly handle it.)  Not always of course, but often.  Regardless though, we neared the end of our conversation and concluded that still, even with no money, wisdom is worth more; and in his own words he summarized by saying, “because you can’t take money with you when you die, but you can take all the wisdom you want with you.”   I couldn’t have summed it up better myself.  🙂

The Power of The Other

The Power of The Other

More often than not, we need others to come along side us and help position us well in our current life circumstances. Let them. Don’t try to go it alone. Likewise, there can be those who keep us from moving forward, and sometimes we must let them go. Take a deeper look look at this topic with Dr. Henry Cloud’s new book, The Power of The Other. It’s about the effect others can have on us, good or bad, and what we can do about it. Well worth the read for understanding how others can help us stretch to new heights.  😉

Procrastinating With Questions

Procrastinating With Questions

So, I recently read a statement that made me wonder, hmm… Am I doing this anywhere in my life? The statement was this,

“Yet instead of facing the evidence and accepting it, you procrastinate with questions.”

Procrastinating with questions. Interesting concept. I can certainly recognize times in my past where I’ve done that. Times where I’ve given the appearance of thoughtfulness, when in either my heart or mind, I knew, and I didn’t need any more questions to be answered, to reach a decision point. It was just the acting out of the decision I was putting off. Now don’t get me wrong, you should certainly do your research in asking questions, seeking wisdom and guidance, and so on. There is a fine line, however, between genuine questions and procrastination with questions.
So ask your questions and do your due diligence, but then search your heart and if need be, exit the cycle of indecision and move forward.